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“The Secret (SEX) Life Of A Middle Aged Married Man”

The ReadyWriter

This article is not only shocking but down right disgusting! A union is between a man and a woman, a husband a wife; for two are to unite not three. The third person in a marriage should be God, not another woman or another man. But in this article, this married man is in love with a man.

I’m a 57-year-old man. Fat. Bald. I have a wife I like. And a boyfriend I love. I’ve been “happily” married for over 37 years. Yet I’ve been leading a secret double life since I turned 50. In the age of Lady Gaga and her mainstream kink videos, a married man in love and having sex with another man is one of the final taboos. I used to think that myself. Nobody talks about it. There aren’t books or movies about it. It’s the ultimate closet.

What I’ve learned in these past few years is that men, even married men, can fall in love with men. A “bromance” can naturally involve touching and it’s completely normal. This is what men have been doing since the start of time, and what men are made to do.

I’m not going to feel bad about who I am — I did that for long enough. In the immortal words of Popeye, “I yam what I yam.” In the mortal words of Lady Gaga, “I was born this way.”

I will say it and say it again, YOU ARE NOT BORN GAY!!!! THAT’S A LIE FROM THE PIT OF HELL PEOPLE!!!! God is God and He is all-knowing… and God knew his intent in making woman for man, point-blank-period!

My boyfriend knows about my wife. She doesn’t know about him. Yes, it’s a problem that I’m married. It’s sad. I care for my wife and I don’t want to hurt her, which is one of the reasons why I’ve kept it secret for so long. I’m not putting her at physical risk, but the emotional risk is very real. I’m truly sorry about that.

So to hell with his wife, so what if she dies from aids or catch an STD, it’s about living a double life of fulfilling and satisfying a selfish need. Wow!

You’re not the same person at 50 you were at 20 (if you are you haven’t grown). So we are different people, stuck in the same institution.

I had been “curious” as a teenager and had one encounter with a friend. It wasn’t a good experience, I didn’t like it, so I convinced myself I never needed to do it again. Then I spent almost 30 years being faithful (the last 10 of those being celibate).

But if you’re curious, or at least not totally afraid of the idea of being with another man, those feelings never go away. Never. There are online support groups for married men who are curious, and that’s a constant. Once you have that urge, you always have that urge.

Sex is completely natural and normal for every creature on this planet — even sex among males. Sex feels good for a reason, and that reason isn’t solely so that we’ll procreate within the bounds of a marriage.

Sex is normal. Sex is natural. Sex is good.

Love is even better.

Even so, I wasn’t looking for love, I was looking for real male-bonding, friendship, a physical connection, and acceptance.

Once I was absolutely clear about that, I put a very specific ad on Craigslist and met another man looking for the same thing. I’ll go into details about this handsome, sweet, smart, funny, creative, kind, beautiful man soon.

Neither of us planned on falling in love. It wasn’t a decision or choice, it was a spiritual connection on the very deepest level. And for the first time in my life, it’s a complete love, spiritual, emotional and physical — and it’s completely honest, with no lies or omissions.

Love is a beautiful thing. And while I know that our love will hurt my wife, I also know it’s right. I know it with all my heart. And then maybe she can find real love, too.

If he was so in love with this man, he would tell his wife and set them both free; but instead he chooses to stay on the downlow in order to live an outward appearance of normality. I could respect him more if he was openly gay but he’s having the best of both his worlds with his double lifestyle.

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“Isaiah Mustafa (The Old Spice Dude) Ain’t Checking For The Sistas”

The ReadyWriter

And he apologizes to all black women if your feelings are hurt about it.

Mustafa, who has been romantically linked to chatty comedian Kathy Griffin, listed admirable qualities such as athleticism and honesty for his woman but then asserted that his ideal woman has to have “good hair.”

Mustafa made this ignorant comment when he appeared on E! News with Giuliana Rancic

“I want my kids to have nice hair so she better have good hair. Cause, I don’t know if you’ve checked my hair out lately. Aside from today it’s normally nice. Today it’s slightly nappy” 

So, Mustafa is looking for a woman with “good” non-nappy hair? If we apply the stereotypical definition of “good hair” and what “nappy” means–it sounds like African-American women might be out of the running for Mustafa’s affection.  What do you think?

Either way, I’m not checking for Isaiah Mustafa either, he lacks the looks and the interest of being a handsome black man and now that he’s really OPENED his mouth, he’s even more uninteresting.

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“Nia Long Bares Her Naked Pregnant Self For Ebony Magazine”

The ReadyWriter

How many celebrity woman have posed naked for magazines now? This seems to be the norm in Hollywood since Demi Moore started the trend many years ago.

The expectant actress not only decided to pose naked for the cover of Ebony but inside she bares her soul and gives us an exclusive peek at her very own personal pregnancy diary.

In the November issue, Long gives EBONY an inside look into her pregnancy diary, the shocking news that made her knees buckle, and how she and her partner, Ime Udoka, are handling the changes and bracing for a new chapter in life. She also opens up to EBONY for the first time ever about her humble roots, reconnecting with family in the West Indies, raising her son, finding her life mate–and about the pregnancy that wasn’t suppose to happen. “The medical profession tries to tell every woman, ‘Have your babies before 40…’ Society tells us ‘Get married before 30…’ I think if we just take our time as women, and do what comes natural to us and for us, we would make fewer mistakes.”

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“Ms. Amanda Knox Was Acquitted Of Murder”

The ReadyWriter

Amanda Knox was acquitted today of a murder that riveted three countries for the past four years and just hours later was whisked away from an Italian prison, ending her four-year ordeal.

The Seattle woman’s legs buckled and she let out a silent cry when the judge in Perugia, Italy, announced that the  appeals court had thrown out her conviction for the murder of her British roommate Meredith Kercher and vacated her 26-year prison sentence.

Knox, 24,  was hustled out of the courtroom, barely able to walk, stumbling while being hauled along by court
officers. The former exchange student was crying and doubled over, her head occasionally coming up for big breaths of air.

Hours later, a pair of black vehicles slid out of the gates of Capanne Prison outside of Perugia, with Knox in the back seat. She is expected to return to home to Seattle immediately.

Both Knox, 24, and Sollecito, 27, confessed to the murder of Meredith Kercher in 2007. They were sentenced to serve sentences of 26 years and 25 years respectively.

Rudy Guede, a black man who was sentenced to 16 years in prison for the rape and murder of Meredith Kercher, has exhausted his appeals.

Do you feel the media has once again influenced a court to free a murderer who should spend the rest of her life in prison?

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“Eddie Long Paid His Accusers To Keep Silent, But They’re Talking”

The ReadyWriter

The good Bishop Eddie Long thought he paid his accusers 1.5 million in settlement money for their silence but they have been doing interviews and revealing details of the case in the media.

Attorneys representing Eddie Long’s church have informed three of the five young men who accused the Bishop of sexual coercion that they intend to recover nearly $1 million from their financial settlement according to the Atlanta Journal Constitution.

The letter, last week by the Atlanta law firm Drew Eckl & Farnham, alleges that Jamal Parris, Spencer LeGrande and Centino Kemp violated terms of a confidentiality agreement outlined in the settlement with Long and New Birth Missionary Baptist Church. The firm is seeking at least $900,000 already paid to the three accusers, according to people involved in the settlement but not authorized to speak publicly.

The letter could simply be a threat, said Atlanta litigator Hayden Pace.

“No one’s going to turn over the money just simply because you’ve asked for it,” Pace said. “You’re going to have to earn it back by establishing your right to it in the courts.”

The five (5) accusers are now considering book deals and movie rights.

I’m sure Eddie Long is pissing in his cleric clothes, knowing that his truth will indeed be revealed. The accusers wanted an admission of guilt from Long and never received it, so they will attempt to do whatever necessary to get satisfaction from this horrible experience.