We all want to experience real love, but how would you define it? How do you know when what you are experiencing is real love?
Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color – you have to feel it to know what it is. The reason it is so hard to define real love is because you cannot experience it with your mind, and definitions are of the mind. Real love is of the heart, and is the result of your intention to be genuine, because love is NOT A FEELING; it’s a decision. And you make that decision based upon experience.
But what about true/real love in relationships? Love is an action that if you don’t use it you lose it. Love is like any communication, if you never send it out, you won’t get a return. Love is something you give to others not something you feel because something happens to you. Love is something that grows from your actions and decisions and if you don’t have it, or is not experiencing it; then there is something you don’t know about love!!
In fantasy verses the facts about love, we may paint a pretty picture in our minds about this fantasy, which isn’t necessarily built on the admirable qualities we desire in a partner. Instead, it may be based on gaps we hope to one day fill, mistakes we aim to correct, and familiarities we’ve grown accustomed to. However, one’s traits, faults and weaknesses should become a reality in growing our relationships.
Love is probably the single most universally desired human quality that exist on this planet. Love is not something you can buy or barter, it is not taught in school, it doesn’t matter how rich you are, your IQ, race, creed, religion, social economic status or who you know. Love IS exactly as it does…So as some of you approach this Valentine’s Day, practice making a decision to love and then follow that decision up with actions that communicate love.
But remember…. love is not a feeling; love is a decision!
What will you decide?
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Every since Jada Pickett Smith and Spike Lee, waged an all-out war and called for a boycott against the ‘Oscars’ for not acknowledging a single African American actor in any category from the academy; everyone seem to be weighing-in with an opinion.
And since the New York tri-state area is supposed to be hit with a blizzard this weekend, this was the headlines in this weeks “New York Post”. “This Weekend Will be WHITER THAN THE OSCARS”
My special guest on this topic is the Rev. Floyd Thompkins (pictured left), former pastor of Antioch Baptist Church in San Jose CA. One of the second oldest black churches west of the Mississippi River. As of today Rev. Thompkins is also the director of the Center for Innovation in Ministry at San Francisco Theological Seminary. 
R&B legend Patti LaBelle is living a life straight out of American Gigolo, the 1980 film about an emotionally unavailable high priced male escort.
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