Fan mail

Why the black man is a disappointment.


I receive fan mail all the time, emails, IG and Facebook comments about show ideas or my listeners and readers wanting certain topics of conversation, but this particular letter we received this morning, the sender asked me to share and publish, so here it is..

Dear Ms. Bell,

I would just like to tell you why I chose to date outside of my race. The main reason is because the black men I’ve encountered have disappointed me. Yes that’s right, the black man is a disappointment. And I cannot depend on a black man. They promise and don’t come through, they talk but put no muscle or action behind their words. Half of them want you to run after them or take care of them. Some are lazy with no ambition. The man I’m with is my white prince. I can count on him, depend on him and he keeps his word, never before have I experienced what I’m experiencing now with my white king. He’s ambitious and see a future with me, never leaving me wondering and/or guessing where I stand in his life. He erases my doubt and secure all of my fears. So yes I’m a black woman in love with and will marry a white man, why? Because once again a black man never stepped up to the plate, he allowed someone else to take and appreciate his queen.

I Thank you for sharing but like Tika Sumpter, Serena Williams and countless others, trust that I understand.

Have a wonderful day and I look forward to your show!

Loyal follower/reader

Wow!!! – I’ve already addressed her, feel free to do the same.

Blog talk radio, Conversations Of A Sistah

Is True Love Real? Tonight on “Conversations Of A Sistah”


Hey Conversationers, this conversation is continuing due to last weeks “no show“.

The question still remains, “Is True Love Real?” Are you living it? Do you believe it’s possible? Are you striving to attain it?

Some people do experience clearly magical connections very early on in a relationship that predict long-term commitment and devotion. The intense drive of sexual attraction is part of every new relationship but there are additional feelings when true, long-lasting love is a possibility.

The sense of being alive is felt simultaneously and in every cell in the body. The heart feels as if it is opening, the mind is engaged, the senses are awakened, and a feeling of transcendence often emerges. Many new couples start out believing they are having some of these experiences, only to find out that they somehow didn’t keep happening. Those are understandable disappointments.

But every partnership has a better chance when the people within them feel early on that their connection is real and won’t go away. True love doesn’t give in to the typical challenges that end most relationships. It actually grows stronger when it is threatened.

Join me tonight at 6:30 p.m. EST on “Conversations Of A Sistah” via blog talk radio, for my commentary, “Is True Love a Reality?”

All links in this post will access the show.

Celebrity Parents, Celebrity Seed, Love, Love & Relationships, The Haves and the Haves Nots

Actress Tika Sumpters Fiancé Revealed


Actress Tika Sumpter‘s baby daddy, actor Nick James, wished her a happy 37th birthday on Instagram.com today, Tuesday, June 20. James is the father of Tika’s infant daughter Ella and actor on Tyler Perry’s The Haves and Have Nots.

James wrote:
Happy Birthday to my best friend, my soul mate, my partner in crime, the person who always dresses like me by accident, my fiancé…soon to be wife, my life partner, my lover “.

Tika kept James’ identity a secret until after their daughter was born. The couple met on the set of Tyler Perry‘s The Haves and Have Nots (which premiers tonight on OWN).

In her photo caption on Father’s Day, Tika thanked her daddy for “sending me a good one.” The actress has a history of failed relationships with men but James changed the game 🙂

Birth and Babies, Expectant parents, Interracial Relationships, Lesbian, Single Parent

Professor who donates sperm in city bathrooms has sired 22 kids


On a busy night last week at the Target on Atlantic Avenue in Brooklyn, Ari Nagel, 40, emerged from the men’s bathroom looking a little flushed and quite pleased with himself.

It’s better when it’s fresh,” he told them.

“It” is Nagel’s semen, and it’s in demand. The 6-foot-2 CUNY Kingsborough math professor has served as a sperm donor for dozens of locals, siring 22 kids over the past 12 years with 18 women of various backgrounds.

For lesbian couples and single ladies looking to have a baby without the expense of going through a sperm bank (which can run in the thousands of dollars), he’s the No. 1 dad.

This isn’t time-consuming, and I’m doing it anyway,” he says of his hands-on hobby. “It’s very easy for me to do.”

His oldest child, now 12, was conceived with a woman he was in a committed relationship with, but all of his offspring since, he says, have resulted from his donations.

About half the time, he provides his seed the old-fashioned way. Sometimes, a lesbian looking to conceive will have her partner in the bed for moral support while she and Nagel engage in intercourse.

She’s never slept with a guy before, so the partner’s in bed, holding her hand,” Nagel explains. “Sometimes, it could be a little painful, then after a few times, they’re comfortable to do it on their own.”

Other times, he supplies his goods in a cup, which he prefers.

He often uses public bathrooms, like those at Target and at Starbucks shops, to procure his samples and hand them off to ovulating women.

You don’t want to do it in one where people are knocking,” he notes.

He will also offer his services in his home near Downtown Brooklyn, but mama wannabes are often more comfortable meeting in public.

Once a location is chosen, Nagel will go into the bathroom, pleasure himself while watching porn on his iPhone — “You can’t connect to Target Wi-Fi if you’re connecting to a porn site, so I use my cell service,” he says — and ejaculate into an Instead Soft cup, a type of menstrual cup“.

He then delivers the specimen to the woman, who goes into the ladies’ restroom and inserts it into her cervix.

The prolific professor is often successful, which he attributes to a high sperm count: 85 million per milliliter.

It’s off the charts,” he boasts. “The clinic said they’ve never seen anything like it.”
(The Mayo Clinic says normal sperm density ranges from 15 million to greater than 200 million sperm per milliliter.)

Nagel made his first foray into professional baby-making eight years ago with a friend — a single, straight Jewish woman in her late 30s and living on the Upper West Side.

Women who have used Nagel’s services — which he provides for free — say his good looks, personality and high sperm count are a draw.

He’s a lot of fun to be around, he loves people, he’s outgoing, and he’s gorgeous,” says Tiffany Harrison, 41, of New Jersey, who with her wife, Yvonne, has a toddler daughter, Zoe, sired by Nagel.

As for his own motivations, the big daddy insists he just likes spreading his seed.

Murder, Not guilty verdict, Police Shooting, Racial tension, racial unrest, Racially motivated, Racism in America, Racist

Officer who shot Philando Castile found not guilty on all counts


Jeronimo Yanez, the Minnesota police officer who fatally shot Philando Castile during a traffic stop last year, was found not guilty of second-degree manslaughter Friday.

He also was acquitted of two counts of intentional discharge of firearm that endangers safety.

Castile’s death garnered widespread attention — and sparked nationwide protests over the use of force by police — after his girlfriend broadcast the shooting’s aftermath on Facebook Live.

Several members of the Castile family screamed profanities and cried after the verdict was announced, despite warnings from the judge that everyone in the courtroom should remain composed.

“Let me go!” yelled Castile’s mother, Valerie.

The families of Castile and Yanez were escorted out of separate courtroom exits. At least 13 officers were present in the small courtroom.

Outside court, Valerie Castile said she was disappointed in the state of Minnesota:

“Because nowhere in the world do you die from being honest and telling the truth “The system continues to fail black people,” she said. “My son loved this city and this city killed my son and the murderer gets away! Are you kidding me right now?”

“We’re not evolving as a civilization, we’re devolving. We’re going back down to 1969. What is it going to take?”

Black lives don’t matter, not here in the united snakes of America.

Officials in St. Anthony, Minn., where Yanez worked as a police officer, said he will not return to the police department from leave after the trial. They said they have decided “the public will be best served if Officer Yanez is no longer a police officer in our city.”